Singles & Net Dating

Writing a Love Letter

You don’t have to limit your chats with prospective dates to just getting to know you kind of chat.  If you are feeling truly amorous and you happen to be decent at writing, then try a letter.  Send it to her or him on the day after a great chat and you might be surprised at the results.

Letters just say a lot more than the standard how are your doing kind of chats.  It says that you have taken the time to put your thoughts in an email.  Now, you don’t have to get all mushy, you can say some nice things though that will get her or him interested.

There are some great sites online that can even help you with writing a love letter.  In writing a love letter to someone that you want to date, you can really make a great impression.  The love letter used to be something that was fairly standard in courting a long time ago.  Since the invention of email, it has taken a back burner to the faster form of communication.

A love letter can be a great way to become instantly memorable.  If you hardly know the guy or gal, then it would be a good idea to keep it light.  Have at least 500 words in your letter though so it seems substantial.

Work flirting – is it harmless?

Recent studies have shown that guys that work with women that are considered to be flirty, they are at a higher chance of breaking up with their partners that are sat at home waiting for them. So, is that harmless bit of flirting that you ladies do at work really that harmless? Could you be breaking up potentially happy relationships without even realizing it?

There is no denying the fact that a little bit of flirting over the mid-morning coffee break helps to put that little bounce in your step during an otherwise boring day. A few minutes extra spent looking in the mirror in the morning to rearrange your hair so that it looks perfect and deciding upon unbuttoning your shirt by one more to show a little bit of cleavage actually helps to make the ladies out there feel better as they go about their busy day. The thing is where is the line? When did flirting at the work place become such a disaster?

Flirting to men means a completely different thing to flirting for women. Men see it as a harmless bit of fun that helps the day go just that little bit faster. Women on the other hand may start out with this notion but sooner or later the questions will be rolling around in their heads? IS this a bit of harmless flirting? Does he really like me? Should I make a move? It is at this point that office flirting becomes something else altogether and perhaps the men should realize this before embarking on a light office flirtation to help the day go faster!

2 signs that you are ready to move in together

It can seem as if moving in with your girlfriend is too big a decision o comprehend and for most men, the thought of actually living with a girl permanently can seem like a completely overwhelming one. The thing is and what most couples don’t realize is that this step actually takes hold without you even realizing it. If you have noticed these two great signs within your relationship then you could be closer to moving in together than you first may have thought!

1.       You spend so much time commuting to be with each other that you may as well live in your car! If you are really willing to spend that much time traveling to and from work and your own place to hers then you are already in the mindset that you should live together.  If you or her only goes home for a couple of hours to pick up clean underwear then you already are almost living together and it just takes one final push to get into that final stage. If you spend more time sleeping in each other’s beds than your own, it might be time to pop the question!

2.       You are so compatible you are like a match made in heaven. She hates ironing and you love it, you hate vacuuming and she adores it, you both love watching films snuggled on the couch with the duvet over the top of you rather than going out on a Friday night and you take it in turns without grumbling to do the laundry. Where else are you going to find this kind of harmonious balance? If you let this relationship slip through your fingers simply because you weren’t sure on the idea of moving in then you are stupid!

How to Learn More About Your Date

What is it that you hate most about someone?  Is it something like biting their nails or maybe even whistling too much to songs they heard on the radio?  Something probably rubs you the wrong way and these topics can be an interesting ice breaker.  Consider this, select the thing that you hate the most in this world.  It could be ice skating or comb-overs, whatever it is, make that one of your first topics of discussion.

Why would you possibly want to talk about something that you absolutely despise?  Well, if your date has the same feeling, then it will create a bond between you.  If your date doesn’t have a problem with it, but can make an interesting conversation with the topic, then he or she also has potential.  However, if your date completely defends the thing that you hate, well then, this might be a good sign that you two won’t work out.

Talking about the things that you hate, right up front, is an excellent way to speed things along.  As an ice breaker, it will be completely refreshing because most people steer away from these topics.  Just remember not to be too judgmental and keep a cool head even if a debate ensues.

Living life after betrayal

If you have been betrayed by a partner, it can feel as if life cannot go on especially when you have been with that partner for a long time. The thing is life does have to go on once you have been betrayed by your partner and the first thing that you should do once you find out about the incident is figure out whether or not the relationship is worth giving another go.

Is this the first time that you have been betrayed by your partner? If it is not then it is probably time to give the relationship up and find someone that is not going to treat you so badly. If it is the first time then maybe your lover is worth a second chance. You must sit down and figure this out on your own, away from your partner and also give yourself some time to yourself. Being around your partner at this difficult time is likely to cause fights and let’s face it; you are upset enough already!

Once you have worked out what you want, the hard work really starts. If staying with your partner is not an option for you then you need to get used to life back on your own again. This is where your job, friends and family come into play and will give the most support that you need. You will need to keep yourself busy and try to avoid anything that is related to your partner to help you to get on with life.

If you have decided that he or she is worth another try then it is time to take action to rebuild the trust. Counselors and therapy is a great option to help you both out but what you will need to remember is that this will be a long and tiresome journey that you must be prepared for.

The Art of Dinner Parties

Women are often keen to introduce their new beau to their friends and family, and often want to do so in a very casual and relaxed setting.  Men, on the other hand, tend to prefer a casual mention amongst friends on a guys night out.  Why not make this one event, and invite them to a dinner party.

A dinner party doesn’t have to be fancy; it can be whatever you want it to be.  Casual attire, good food, and good wine and other beverages paired with great company is assurance that the evening will go smoothly.  If you are unsure what exactly to cook, go online and find some ideas.  Just because it looks fancy, doesn’t mean it’s hard to make, or even expensive.

If you are still at a loss, create a themed event, like Mad Men night, and encourage your guests to dress in costume or outfits similar to the theme of the show.  You might want to have some episodes playing in the background.  Feature food and drinks popular at the time.  If it is around any holiday, it’s even easier to throw a themed dinner party.  Christmas is a great way to bring friends together for a great night.

The Right Person for you

So you’ve been out on a few dates with the same person, and really like them, but how do you know when you‘ve found the right person?  It’s really quite simple, yet extremely complicated at the same time.  They make you laugh, smile, happy all the time, comfort you when you’re sad, treat you well, and a multitude of other things.   If this seems too vague, then you are clearly not with the right person.

There is no correct definition of what, or who, is right or wrong; it’s all in what you are looking for.  Most women and men have a ‘type’ that they date, but often times fall in love with someone completely different.  This is not uncommon, and not a bad thing at all.

The right person is the perfect complement to you and your personality.  They may have very similar tastes as you in music, movies, and dining, but still offer enough of a difference to keep your interest.  They are a perfect balance to your moods and emotions, and keep you centered and happy.  They make you feel safe.

Where do you find this person?  Anywhere; online dating (yes, it really is possible!), coffee shops, restaurants, school, blind dates, anywhere there are people, there is a potential match.  When you find yours, you will know.

Meeting your Date’s Friends

If you have been dating someone for awhile now then it may be time to meet the friends.  If you want to make a good impression, be sure to ask a lot of questions; answer any questions truthfully and without hesitation and above all, always be nice.  Friend’s are usually the last hurdle to jump over before moving the relationship to the next level.

If your date is currently running you through the gauntlet of meeting each of their friends then stay strong.  You won’t need the approval of all of her friends, just a few select ones.  Those are the ones that your date really appreciates as sounding boards, friends and trusted advisors.  If you can make it through at least thirty minutes with her friends then you should be golden.

What if you don’t like the friends though?  You may need to consider why your date is even friends with people you don’t like in the first place.  Does that mean that maybe you shouldn’t like your date too?  Not really, her friends may be a part of her life but they don’t necessarily reflect who they are as a person.  Just be friendly to your date’s friend whether or not you like them.  You may run into them again down the road.

The art of being cautious with online dating

There is something about online dating that seems to bring out the freak in people and you will soon find yourself talking to people online that you would naturally stay far away from in the real world. At first these may seem comical and then after a while, more than a little irritating but there is an art to being cautious to avoid swapping private details about yourself with people that you are not and would never be interested in and the good news is that at least by using online dating, you never actually have to meet up with these unsavory characters in person.

One of the best things about online dating is the onsite messaging services that many of the sites have to offer. It is wise to use these for at least a couple of weeks before you decide to swap email messages or instant messaging ID’s and by doing this you can make sure that the people you are talking to are actually fairly normal before you decide to bring them into your life. As well as this, most sites will have some sort of report and block system where people that are rude to you, start sexy chats that you don’t want with you and generally just annoy you can be blocked from your life so that you never have to talk to them again. This is another handy tool that these online dating sites have to offer for your own safety and perhaps your sanity too and it would be wise to use them.

You will come across people that you have no intentions of talking to let alone dating but the features that the sites have to offer are there for your benefit so use them wisely and as they should be used and you will find that you have very few problems when it comes to online dating.

Build a perfect profile for online dating

It is a well-known fact that your profile is vitally important with online dating. Not only is this one of the key elements that you will make you appear much more attractive to people looking to date but also it will give a great first impression when done correctly that will ensure that you not only stand out above the crowd but also to get the most potential matches that you can manage. You will want your online dating profile to not only be attractive but also one that is seen in a positive light with plenty of fun and informative snippets about yourself.
There are a few things that you should avoid with your inline dating profile and the first of these is to avoid any negatives. There is nothing more off putting than seeing a profile that basically says “I am doing this because I am lonely and desperate!” If you are finding it hard to figure out what to write in your “About Me” box then take a peek at other people’s profiles and see what they have written. At least then you can get a feel and if you need to, basically re-write someone else’s but with your information.
The more that you write about yourself in your online dating profile, the better chance you will have of finding someone special. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed by your hobbies – if you love collecting stamps then put this. The whole point of inline dating is to find someone in the millions of people out there that has the same outlook on life and enjoys the same things as you do so be honest, out yourself out there and don’t hold back!